Red Flag Wednesday

Always be aware of who you are interested in or starting to date, check for red flags and let family know where you are just in case. Familiarize yourself with your local corrections facility website and know how to look up who you are talking to. Here is the definition of domestic violence again so that when you do see what they are arrested for you understand even a misdemeanor is something to be concerned about. I'm not condemning someone who has gone to jail I am simply educating you on how to find their mugshot if they have one. Also you can look at public records to find their arrest information as well.   Educate yourself so you're not a victim!!

Domestic violence" means any assault, aggravated assault, battery, aggravated battery, sexual assault, sexual battery, stalking, aggravated stalking, kidnapping, false imprisonment, or any criminal offense resulting in physical injury or death of one family or household member by another family or household member.

When someone moves really fast with you, like a whirl wind romance they don't want you to know who they really are (not all but most).

 Some red flags are:

1. Wants to know where you are at all times of the day (texts, calls, social media)
They are taking up your time which may make you feel like they care and are being protective, but if you feel that it's too much then it's too much.

2. Getting upset with you for the smallest thing, or blaming you for something that has nothing to do with you.

3. Controlling your thoughts... by this I mean putting it in your head and as it ruminates it now becomes your thoughts. Could be self-doubt, or something else.

4. Funny about money and isn't willing to compromise to anything. It's their way or no way!

5. Family is a huge priority, but only their family. It's one sided. Eventually you might not see your family.

6. You don't have to be physically abused to be abused, the mental and emotional can be done abusively by withholding affection, not talking to you and ultimately is punishing you.

From the victims that I've spoken with these are the top red flags that always come up in conversation.  I hope if anything it helps someone to do a gut check.