My thoughts

I could give you the statistics of domestic violence today, but I wanted to have you think for a moment with your heart. Imagine feeling like you have no one to turn to or will understand that you love your abuser and want them to get help so it gets better. You've fooled yourself into believing that if you don't do anything wrong they'll be good. You believe your kids need both parents and besides you don't have money or family to turn to since everyone had to be alienated. You hide the bruises with long sleeves and put on your best smile to cover the worst pain of all - the WORDS that are forever stuck in your mind and heart. The names you are called daily and the feeling of worthlessness. No one will ever want you and you will never leave me. You can't leave when you don't have somewhere to go and you've been told repeatedly that they will kill you if you try. The laws aren't strong enough to keep the abuser in jail and keep you safe from more harm. Most domestic violence cases are misdemeanors which is a travesty of justice since most often times the victim is so badly beat up that the abuser should go away for years not hours. When you ask for an injunction and the judge gives it to you - it's just a piece of paper that says the abuser cannot be within 500 feet of you. The police have their hands tied without a proper law that allows them to actually do something like take them to jail whether you want them to or not. They can put them in a batterer's intervention class that will do nothing, but allow them time to hang out with other abusers and text their friends. It's a crying shame how someone can cause so much pain and not get in trouble for it. Leaving most of the time is just not an option.
Furthermore when you get away from your abuser penniless and been out of work for a long time you have to figure it out immediately. The thoughts that go through your mind are I've got to find a job so I can show I can take care of my child and don't lose custody. Once again, control again and fear again. It's all a game they play.

If you ever find yourself wondering why a victim of domestic violence doesn't leave, maybe just maybe I have shed some light on the reasons why. Please protect your family from this ever growing epidemic, it's an all consuming disease of everyone around. It's a vicious circle and by bringing awareness to the problems with laws and the lack of help someone can be saved. I appreciate each and every one of you that read my blog and truly pray that it helps at least one person. Take care. God Bless